Mer om perfekta människor, tävlan-konkurrens och att inte vara tillräckligt bra…
2 augusti, 2015 § 8 kommentarer
I artikeln ”Suicide in Campus and the Pressure of Perfection” kan man bland annat läsa:
”Gregory T. Eells, director of counseling and psychological services at Cornell University, believes social media is a huge contributor to the misperception among students that peers aren’t also struggling.
When students remark during a counseling session that everyone else on campus looks happy, he tells them: ‘I walk around and think, ‘That one’s gone to the hospital. That person has an eating disorder. That student just went on antidepressants.’
As a therapist, I know that nobody is as happy or as grown-up as they seem on the outside.”
”Where the faulty comparisons become dangerous is when a student already carries feelings of shame, according to Dr. Anthony L. Rostain, a pediatric psychiatrist on Penn’s faculty who was co-chairman of the task force on student psychological health and welfare. ‘Shame is the sense one has of being defective or, said another way, not good enough,’
Dr. Rostain said. ‘It isn’t that one isn’t doing well. It’s that ‘I am no good.’ Instead of thinking ‘I failed at something, these students think, ‘I am a failure.’/…/
‘America’s culture of hyperachievement among the affluent has been under scrutiny for at least the last decade, but recent suicide clusters, including the deaths of three high school students and one recent graduate in Palo Alto, Calif., have renewed the debate. ‘In the Name of College! What Are We Doing to Our Children?’ blared a Huffington Post headline in March.
Around the same time, the New York Times columnist Frank Bruni published ‘Where You Go Is Not Who You’ll Be: An Antidote to the College Admissions Mania,’ which he was inspired to write after years of observing the insanity surrounding the process — not only among students but also their parents.
Numerous other alarms have been sounded over helicopter parenting, and how it robs children of opportunities to develop independence and resiliency, thereby crippling them emotionally later in life. These cultural dynamics of perfectionism and overindulgence have now combined to create adolescents who are ultra-focused on success but don’t know how to fail.”